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Breakups, separation or divorce can properly take the wind out of your gorgeous sails, the life carpet out from under your feet. It is easy to end up feeling out of sorts, perhaps a little washed up and not really knowing who you truly are and what you are about.
Finding your MOJO, your inner funny or your unique ‘what make’s you, ‘YOU’ can take a little time to return. The trick is to not go looking for it, let it come back to you naturally. Through relationships we can forget who we are, we can become chameleon like and in the more controlling and narcissistic ones it is easier to lose ourselves. We judge ourselves to be not good enough, to be unattractive and not able to voice how we feel. We lose confidence in ourselves, our MOJO feels a little like a dying ember and it is hard to find the life bellows to reignite our enthusiasm. And sometimes, unexpectedly, the bellows will come to you.
Re-finding my mischief, laughter and ultimately the strength to believe in myself came from within. Self-care, nourishment and a big dose of gentle love for my inner ‘funny’ gave me the confidence to know, that I could be me, worthy of being heard and able to love again. Maybe it is when you find yourself with a bunch of strangers you’ve never met before and properly laughing. Feeling a little of the mischief that comes with mutual attraction and letting yourself go. Having fun, feeling brave and putting yourself out of your comfort zone…. all of which is liberating.
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These times are unexpected, they are gifts, so try to notice how your body feels, are you feeling the frisson of happiness in your cells and mind, do you catch yourself smiling so hard your cheeks ache? Do your eyes shine because you feel alive? Do you feel that sassy sexiness once more, working every bit that is your lovely flawsome self and loving your own positive energy. That is your MOJO working its magic, the feel good vibes and it is you!
After the storm of a breakup it is okay not to know who you are. So try giving yourself permission to not know or at least don’t be in a rush! It is always tempting to be someone you aren’t because it feels easier. Less scary than having to look at ourselves and understand why the break up happened rather than believing you are worthy of being you. Be gentle and don’t sell yourself short…
Try being with yourself, remember what you love doing and go do that – visit an art gallery, go to a gig or even if it is simply putting on that favourite colour scarf you’ve missed wearing or that outfit that your Ex never liked.
We live in a society where so many people are trying to be something they are not, so be you, invest some time in getting to know yourself again as you would researching or learning about anything in life. Notice the great parts about you, love the perfect imperfections of who you are and trust you are everything you are meant to be for the right person.
Your mojo hasn’t gone and your light isn’t out, it’s just waiting for you to notice it, shine it up and show the world.